Long while back I had a friend who told me to read the book Tuesdays with Morrie. It’s a really sweet, sentimental book.
I know. I have really no idea why she suggested it for me.
Anyhow, the premise is this: If you spend time with someone, on a daily basis, you should really, you know, get to know them. Because people are generally awesome. They have stories to tell and lives that are lived, and we should realize how precious time is with them.
I know. It’s really sweet. And very true. And so, I was thinking just this morning how I have this other person who is like HERE like, A LOT and when, really, was the last time I sat down with him and just dug deep into his soul and got to “know” him?
It’s the husband. I’m talking about the husband. FYI. In case you were wondering if I had lost my mind and was talking about Steve the Cat. Or my sons. I do know my sons, but honestly? Deep conversation with my sons doesn’t happen too often because children.
So today! I am posting another installment in my series called:
THIS IS MARRIAGE.
So, here’s how we talk:
Exhibit One: We are persistent about calcium.
Exhibit two: We do not freak out about scary stuff. In fact, we don’t freak out at all, we just blithely respond like it’s no big deal, leaving SOME OF US TO HAVE TO DEAL WITH KILLER EVIL STINGER THINGS.
There’s no resentment here. None at all.
Exhibit Three: We go the extra mile.
Exhibit Four: We get real. We even use saucy language.
Exhibit Five: We quote scripture at each other. And by that I mean, HE sends me all these really uplifting, wonderful, LONGGGGGGG texts the bible all OVER the place. And I respond with my favorite verse. Because it’s short.
Note how he completely ignores my snark and just keeps right on being SO HELPFUL AND SPIRITUAL. AWESOME.
Exhibit Six: We are very very honest. And we understand each other’s needs. Mine are usually about food.
Exhibit seven: We are always willing to help out. Like when the husband needs to get a refill on a prescription we are more than happy to send pix. And we are patient.
And more pix…
Exhibit Eight: We like to enjoy the little things. Like our kid. Dressed like a bat.
Exhibit Eight: We are straight up, no snark, here for each other. Even when autocorrect fails. We pray. Especially when we are far away, at Whole Women’s Weekend, dealing with a lot of stuff, and really really just needing an “I love you.”
I always get the “I love you.”
This is marriage.